The story I tell myself.

I’m terrible at giving feedback. Maybe it’s a confrontation issue, who knows. But what I do know is I have an amazing coach through Shopify who has taught me so many things to help me grow and succeed—one of my favorites is 'the story I tell myself'

If you're like me, you get caught up giving feedback and you're never quite sure how to approach that conversation.

The purpose of 'the story I tell myself' sets a framework for you to use when you need to approach difficult conversations.

It grounds everyone in the conversation, roots us in behavior and words and helps reflect on how our actions have so many different interpretations. 

An example: When you tell me I’m not ready for something, the story I tell myself is that I’m not trying hard enough. This has become one of the most groundbreaking conversation starters I've ever used. 

Try it the next time you're having difficulties framing your feedback.